Alimony - There, I said it (negotiations)

 I've been told that I'm supposed to stop talking about alimony.  I've never really listened to that advice very well, and I don't intend to start now.

Yes, I had a prior marriage and it was a marriage where I provided income and she stayed home to raise the children.  When that marriage ended, she was "awarded" permanent (lifetime) alimony which has been garnished from my paychecks since the divorce.  

With no paychecks coming soon, and therefore nothing to garnish, we have begun negotiations on how to end this.  I wish I could say that the negotiations are going fairly, but they're not.  You see, I have a gun to my head.  Not being able to meet the alimony obligation means possible jail time, loss of passport and driver license.

Still, I have to resolve this so we go forward.  But it feels like she's taking advantage of us (Vicky and I) again, especially while the chips are down.